S7, Ep8: Ambition, Egg-Freezing, IVF, and Advocacy with Eboni K Williams
Making life-changing decisions is never easy, especially when it comes to motherhood. Eboni K. Williams, a legal expert, journalist, and media personality, shares her empowering journey to becoming a solo mom by choice. With a career-focused mindset and no initial aspirations for motherhood, Eboni still chose to freeze her eggs. When her perspective shifted in her late 30s, she felt grateful for her decision to go with egg-freezing years before, as it set her up to begin her pursuit of single motherhood by choice via IVF.
In this episode, Eboni opens up about what led her to embrace solo motherhood, the importance of planning for the future, and her insights on navigating this choice as a Black woman. With honesty and clarity, she shares both the rewards and challenges, emphasizing that this path isn’t for everyone – but can be incredibly fulfilling for whom it aligns with their goals and desires.
“I’m very careful not to over-romanticize this.” - Eboni K. Williams
In this episode about Eboni’s journey to becoming a SMBC, we discuss:
Why Eboni initially froze her eggs “with zero intention of using them”;
The realization at 38 that made her decide she wanted to be a mom;
How she chose a donor and why she felt this was a critical factor;
Her decision to go straight to IVF due to age-related statistics;
The role of a doula and how having one ensures the mother’s needs are prioritized;
The medical crisis around Black maternal health and why it’s critical to advocate for yourself;
Encouraging women to trust their abilities and make informed decisions about motherhood;
Why Eboni doesn’t romanticize solo motherhood even though it’s beautiful and everything she wanted;
The importance of considering life decades ahead when making parenting decisions;
How choosing solo motherhood gave Eboni more dating options.
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